marriage – Becoming The Muse

Of The Strong Woman Scam

Don’t call her strong… It seems like a compliment doesn’t it? To celebrate someone one’s capacity to endure. It seems like solidarity doesn’t it? To tell someone to stay strong…

Of Soul Dates

It was the birthday of an elderly couple the other day… I was amazed how they shared the same birthday, like what other sign could there be that someone was…

Of Wedded Bliss: My Secret Wives

Truth and I are lifelong partners,-wedded bliss –Only yesterday we celebrated our anniversary,The mistress of veracity and I.I deny the existence of elusive complexity regarding myself,Simplicity is my mistress,in joyful…

Of Struggling With Parenting

14 Jan 202214 Jan 2022

Guest Article MY STRUGGLE AS A PARENT Before I start this post I would like to alert you that it is going to be centered on humour because over the…

Of The Secret Lives Of Baba Segi’s Wives

9 May 20219 May 2021

The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives; a fiction debut by Nigerian author and poet Lola Shoneyin first published 2010. The book explores family dynamics and polygamy in ‘modern’ day…

Of So Long a Letter Book Review

So Long a Letter was the debut novel by Senegalese author and feminist Mariama Bâ. Originally published in 1979 in French under the title Une si longue letter. In 1981,…

Of Coffee With BoldColours

If you were having coffee with me, we would be continuing the coffee chat with Brenda aka BoldColours, I could not bear to cut out a single syllable of our…

Of Coffee With 3am Scones

26 Aug 20201 Jan 2021

If you were having coffee with me, we would chat with a lady whose remarks about waking up to bake scones at 3 am went viral on the internet sparking…

Defining Moments…

Of Coffee With Entanglement

12 Jul 202012 Jul 2020

If you were having coffee with me I would be happy to have you visit this tangle of words and welcome you to these my musings. As I poured you…

Defining Moments

Of Traditions, Marriage And The Law

The main traditions that we maintain are linked to birth, marriage and death; the circle of life. Funerals In the midst of life we are in death and funerals are…

Of Stay With Me

3 May 20203 May 2020

Book Review Stay With Me is the debut novel by Nigerian author Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀. First published 2017 the book and author have since received critical acclaim as well as nominations…

Of The Boomerang Affair

17 Mar 202015 Mar 2020

A Guest Story by Berina Ogega Bomerang Affair The floor was colder than usual. I turned away from the wall and moved closer to my husband. I could not reach…