Lately I have been seeing lots of references about love languages, which were sparked by Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The secrets to love that lasts
Confession I haven’t read this book its somewhere on a list of To Be Read as someone who never reads the instruction of manual of a device until I am trying to figure out why its not working the way it should, I prefer reading fantastical fiction.
According to Chapman there are five love languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch
I have a love affair with words and people who appreciate the tangle of words that I weave, and this is how my love language is expressed
Words of Affirmation
This is when you use your words to give me constructive feedback. They can be simple words, like:
Nice
Great
Good read
I sort of know this already but a little affirmation never hurt and if you want to kick it up a gear, use your words show how much and what exactly you like about what you read
I relate to what you have shared a similar thing happened when….
You are a breath of fresh of air, I particularly laughed when you said…
I love how you express yourself and when you shared about…
You have really nice hair…( ok that one isn’t quite about writing but my hair is a love language we are in a committed relationship I put a ring on it)
I want to say I appreciate constructive criticism but please be gentle the writing ego is somewhat fragile one thoughtless word can wound the soul, you may not have an idea how scary it is to share bits of yourself this is why affirmation is crucial
Acts of service
Actions speak louder than words.
Do things. Simple
Click the like button or the share button. Share on your Twitter or Facebook or email or wherever.
Recommend the blog to other people
Add a link to the blog when you mention it.
Print out a favourite blog post or give to someone to read.
Send me prompts or ideas of posts to write about for when inspiration is low
Receiving Gifts
This is somewhat similar to acts of service but these are more meaningful and thoughtful ways of saying look I was thinking of you.
Send a postcard printed out from your favourite post
A personalized notepad that matches the blog
Buy me coffee
Here’s a shiny new laptop to write on
A t/shirt that says blogging is my lifestyle
Quality time
I want undivided attention. I am not saying read only me, we are capable of loving a vast range of writers and I also want to be read. Catch a break, put your feet up, click something and read.
Physical Touch
Well, this one is a bit difficult because… you are over there and I am… over here. But you can use your imagination…. Wait please don’t hug your laptop and pretend that’s me that’s just weird.
If you ever see me in the real world, don’t just smile and wave, stop me and shake my hand…
Uncle of Bloggers
~B
Becoming The Muse 
🙂 It never crossed my mind to print out a favourite blog post to read.
However, I do recommend URLs for some people to check out (In my part of the world, almost everyone has access to the internet).
Do enjoy the rest of your day!
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Printing out a post is a refreshing homage, a bit old school but still cool
definitely sharing blog rolls is a must^_^
cheers
~B
cheers
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Laughing wildly
“I sort of know this already but a little affirmation never hurt “….”but please be gentle the writing ego is somewhat fragile one thoughtless word can wound the soul”
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On a serious note, you should take a test to check which language you predominantly prefer. I don’t believe it but i took it anyway and it couldn’t decide between words and actions for me. I got almost zero for the other languages (gift, time, touch).
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The last test I took was to check what my personality type was … apparently I am INFP and from that I can pretty much work out the languages I prefer will just check the test to see if it matches though I dont hold much faith in the likes of these they do offer interesting insights…. kinda like astrology, mentalists and psychiatrists
~B
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probably cause of that whole faking it till you make it… got a bit of the imposter syndrome low key hiding in the background
~B
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I love how you write, its like we are having a conversation. You can count on me for words of affirmation cause your writing style is just awesome.
I’m a big fan.
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♥♥♥♥♥♥
always appreciated
~B
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For someone who hasn’t read the book yet , I think you explained it way to easy than some of us that have read about two versions of the book. Well I think that’s why some of us are in love with your write up. ❤️🙏♥️
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I find your voice as a writer very gentle and affirming, I guess that is why you are the uncle of bloggers – a gentle and affirming uncle.
Ps: I am also INFP, mediator to be exact (according to https://www.16personalities.com), which one are you?
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Wow 😍
Thank you, this is the nicest thing I have read all day.
I appreciate this.
~B
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Oh!!! You won’t believe this, but then it would make so much sense like a light bulb💡 going on and suddenly you are like, oh that’s why
I am INFP https://wp.me/p3NqTj-2se
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Hnngggh, I don’t know what to say exactly, I just love this. I have a soft spot for needing affirmations too because I’m a snowflake and yes words can be hurtful sometimes. I love your hair. You deserve all the affirmations you need. All of your readers appreciate you (and sometimes I even think of all the friends you have on twitter and wordpress, you know me and you spend time reading my posts too, and that’s just amazing). You are amazing. I’d buy you coffee if I could. Altho I’m not a creep and hugging my laptop or phone isn’t really my thing so I guess, I’m okay? Haha. You rock my world, B. 💕 I appreciate you.
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Thank you Elle ♥
crazy thing about blogging, its like a mirror which reflects back the energy you put in, when you reach out someone will reach back, wild!!!
hahahaha you alright
~B
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I think I need ALL of these to feel loved!
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Totally… Why pick one… For a full package we need a bit of everything
~B
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I shall definitely hug you when i see you
Buy you coffee too…
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This is a real touch of the love language. Words of affirmation here for me.
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I was trying to make the love languages applicable and yep totally words of affirmation are one thing a blogger lives for
~B
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Beautiful read and I love your hair uncle B.
This piece is a gem.
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Thank you
~B
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