Lately I have been seeing lots of references about love languages, which were sparked by Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The secrets to love that lasts
Confession I haven’t read this book its somewhere on a list of To Be Read as someone who never reads the instruction of manual of a device until I am trying to figure out why its not working the way it should, I prefer reading fantastical fiction.
According to Chapman there are five love languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch
I have a love affair with words and people who appreciate the tangle of words that I weave, and this is how my love language is expressed
Words of Affirmation
This is when you use your words to give me constructive feedback. They can be simple words, like:
I sort of know this already but a little affirmation never hurt and if you want to kick it up a gear, use your words show how much and what exactly you like about what you read
I relate to what you have shared a similar thing happened when….
You are a breath of fresh of air, I particularly laughed when you said…
I love how you express yourself and when you shared about…
You have really nice hair…( ok that one isn’t quite about writing but my hair is a love language we are in a committed relationship I put a ring on it)
I want to say I appreciate constructive criticism but please be gentle the writing ego is somewhat fragile one thoughtless word can wound the soul, you may not have an idea how scary it is to share bits of yourself this is why affirmation is crucial
Acts of service
Actions speak louder than words.
Do things. Simple
Click the like button or the share button. Share on your Twitter or Facebook or email or wherever.
Recommend the blog to other people
Add a link to the blog when you mention it.
Print out a favourite blog post or give to someone to read.
Send me prompts or ideas of posts to write about for when inspiration is low
This is somewhat similar to acts of service but these are more meaningful and thoughtful ways of saying look I was thinking of you.
Send a postcard printed out from your favourite post
A personalized notepad that matches the blog
Buy me coffee
Here’s a shiny new laptop to write on
A t/shirt that says blogging is my lifestyle
I want undivided attention. I am not saying read only me, we are capable of loving a vast range of writers and I also want to be read. Catch a break, put your feet up, click something and read.
Well, this one is a bit difficult because… you are over there and I am… over here. But you can use your imagination…. Wait please don’t hug your laptop and pretend that’s me that’s just weird.
If you ever see me in the real world, don’t just smile and wave, stop me and shake my hand…
Uncle of Bloggers