Becoming The Muse

0f Life after 30                                  ^🤣

Guest post

First of all “Kutaurirwa hunyimwa sembare dzekumusana” – no amount of talk will prepare you for this episode of your life, its always the realisation that haaaa ndakura manje – “I am old now” but also feeling very young inside.

So much is expected from us yet we have so little to offer. The world has become tougher, worse off when you are in Zimbabwe, its no longer a walk in the park, no matter how many qualifications you achieve, its never enough if you aren’t connected enough. For others who are fortunate enough to get employed the salaries are not enough to cover the responsibilities that are on our shoulders, vabereki vanoda kuchengetwa —parents need looking after—, we need to also take care of ourselves at the same time and there should be a side hustle running somewhere.

Most of my peers are either still living with their parents because mari haisi kukwana -“the money is not enough” or they are so far away from home it hurts. On the other hand we are also expected to be starting our own families, hanzi “zvinhu hazvife zvakabatana —things never come together— just start with what is there” – fair point but there is also the question of who to start the family with – that area is also shrouded with dramatic occurrences- team yacho no longer believes in the nuclear family set up.

Its all fun and games and dipping when one catches feelings or this whole thing of never settling, its even worse when you do not fit into the acceptable beauty standards – if you arent light skinned, curvy and slim you are toast and when you reach thirty as a lady its already a muddy pool because your age mates are going for ama2k and not you and you sometimes get the occasional younger guys who just want a taste of the older women – believe it or not we are that old!

I wouldnt want to go in depth about the ones that reach out or else I will catch smoke, tagara tinoshorwa kudhara —we are already disrespected— anyway with that whole “a single lady over 28 is like stale milk” Not that it bothers anyone anyway besides if you have some bit of education, the society also believes “une nharo and haurooreke” —you are stubborn and unmarriageable— also because you reason too much haudi kuitiswa—you dont want to be used—.

You are also damned if you are open minded about sex, they will want the freakiness but never to settle down with you, so yah, its a never ending struggle between what is expected of us and what we can offer! Best believe this is the least of anyone’s worries, tiri kutsvaga kurarama and zvinhu zvakaoma! —we are trying to make a living and things are tough—

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About the author

Roseline Venencia Mutare is a 31 year old who wears many hats among them being a radio producer and presenter, lecturer, gender specialist, communication professional. She can be contacted via rosiemutare@gmail.com